September 21, 2012

HELP ME! I'M SABOTAGING MYSELF AND I CAN'T GET UP


just when we're on the verge of reaching our goals, something happens to shoot us down. And it happens every time we get to the edge of reaching success



Sabotage is one of those words that make most of us cringe. When I think of the word sabotage, I think of people deliberately trying to screw up my life. But then I got to learning. And when I found out that we sabotage our own lives, I thought, hmmm. I better look into this.

Most of you know that I've studied the subconscious mind for a gazillion years, and I continue to do so everyday. So when I delved into the Law of Attraction, the Law of Cause and Effect, and a few other universal laws, I came to validate, through these studies and through my own findings and experiences, that we DO sabotage ourselves all day long. But how?

We go through life with blinders on, which obviously isn't a productive way to live. When bad situations come our way, we tend to think it's the outside world doing something to us. We believe that the world is wrong and that people, and God, are against us. It's never our fault; it's always someone elses. Well guess what? It is our fault. We are the ones causing our own grief. And I realize when I say this that some of you may click off this blog because you don't want to believe or accept that you are creating your own strife. But I'm okay with that. Because I know the truth of how the mind works, and by practicing certain principals and digging deep to find answers, I'm living proof of how we can climb the ladder of success in order to have happy lives.

You see, life is an extremely tricky and difficult existence when you stay complacent. Life can be torture if you don't question your existence. Life can even be not worth living if we don't challenge ourselves to find our purpose. So, how is it that we come to sabotage ourselves?
We want good things. We want money. We want love. We want health. We tell ourselves all day long that we want. So why aren't we getting what we want? What is keeping the marvels of life at a distance?

The answer . . . our underlying beliefs.

Now, this is not a small issue. Our core beliefs are established between infancy and approximately seven years of age. It's during these critical years that our subconscious is open to full suggestion. We're not living with defense mechanisms. We don't have our ego-based guards up. We observe and soak up all the events and emotions of those around us. We watch them. We listen. And then we mimick. And it's these observations which then become our realities.

If we live in a household of fighting parents who argue over money and say negative things about money, we are going to absorb this and make it our belief. If we observe our parents drinking and getting drunk, smoking or getting high, or doing other things that aren't going to benefit us down the road, we're going to take it in without question; believing that this is the way of life. As we grow up, and continue to see this behavior from our parents or surroundings, not only have we established the core belief that marriage sucks, it's okay to smoke, only the rich get richer, money is evil, pot is okay for your health, to be drunk all day is okay if my mother or father is doing it; fighting is how to live--- we will unconsciously believe it, and therefore do one of two things: live it or be so frightented by it that we go the other way. Why?

Because our subconscious is similiar to a computer. Our subconscious stores the program that runs our behavior and direction. All our early beliefs about life have been fed into it by our observations, and now, the subconscious runs this program and will continue to do so until we change the program---which may be never if we don't learn about ourselves.

If you have a computer, you know the computer runs the software that's been installed. And the computer doesn't know to do anything other than run what's been installed. We cannot change this fact; just like we cannot change how our mental computer runs its software. Right?
But what happens if we change the software on our computer? We get a different program. We get a different outcome. Whatever software we install is what the computer spits out.

So think of our core beliefs as the software which our subconscious computer runs. Our core beliefs are running all day long, and its Godly design is to seek out validation (output, manifestation) of these beliefs from the outside world---NO MATTER WHAT WE CONSCIOUSLY believe. In other words, if we've watched and observed our parents fighting over money, and heard them saying that money is evil and causes nothing but problems, and that only the rich get rich and life is unfair, AND then watched how they have struggled to make ends meet, more than likely we will have the core belief that money is evil. Now, if we have this core belief, and if we've watched our parents struggle, then we've made an unconscious correlation that to have money is evil and to struggle is the only way to earn a living. Now keep in mind that this IS YOUR SOFTWARE, and since it's the subconscious' job to seek out validation of its beliefs, it does, and it will deliver to you circumstances and situations to line up with its beliefs. Whatever its beliefs are.

So let's say you want a job and you line up this great interview. You prepare. You're ready. You're going to get this job; at least that's what you consciously tell yourself. But on the day of your interview, you're late. On the day of the interview, you mess up. On the day of the interview, you say the wrong thing. You don't understand how it happened. You didn't mean to say the answers you gave. You didn't mean to get there late. What went wrong?

You sabotaged yourself unknowingly. In your thinking, you wanted the job. In your thinking, you deserved the job; but subconsciously you didn't believe you were worth it. Subconsciously you believed that you must struggle in order to earn a living. Subconsciously you believed that money is evil. And since the subconscious is Godly designed to deliver your beliefs by seeking out all situations and circumstances, by exuding these energy beliefs into the universe, you attract that which you subconsciously believe; no matter what you think you believe.

How do we know what we subconsciously believe? Stop what you're doing and look around your house or apartment. Go to your window and look out. Look at your car. Do you have a car? Look at your neighborhood. Is this where you want to live. Look at your job, your friends, your relationship, your money situation. Is your life where you want it to be? Are you thin and healthy? If you answer no to these questions, despite that you want all these good things, then your core belief is that you don't deserve these good things, for whatever reasons that were installed.

There are ways to find out what your core beliefs are. There's muscle testing, various lines of questioning, meditation, all types of ways to find out what you really believe. Simply put, sit quietly for several minutes and when your mind is quiet ask yourself: why don't I have money? Why is it just when I'm at the brink of success something derails me? Ask, and you will get the answers. Why will you get the answers? BECAUSE THIS IS WHAT YOU ARE CREATED TO DO: YOU ARE CREATED TO SEEK ANSWERS in order to evolve into the image you were created in.

We are made in God's image, which simply means that we are designed by nature to have it all and be it all. We are designed by nature to seek God. We are designed to evolve into God's image.

So. Are you telling yourself one thing and getting something else? It's about time to find out why.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

I have pretty much sabotaged myself all my life. I saw my parents drink every weekend and self-destruct on Sunday ...dishes flying, dodging furniture,etc. For the first 10 years of MY adult life, I did pretty much the same thing. It was not until I admitted I had a problem (how could it be MY FAULT?)and started working on ME , rather than playing the victim, poor me, poor poor me, I had a bad childhood, blah blah blah...I looked at where I was and where I WANTED to be. I got a job...I started to be self sufficient...The outcome of my endeavors was MY fault and if I didn't like it, I HAD TO CHANGE IT not anyone else....Yes, Life got a bit easier once I took control and didn't put the blame on other people places and things...but it still required work on my behalf. As I grew my outlook on life in general was a whole lot brighter as I took responsibility for my own actions and thoughts.

Valentine said...

What a brilliant observation you made, and you made a brave decision to take full responsibility. Bravo for you! I applaud your willingness to change your life